Within human behavior there are so-called social skills, which are the different strategies that we use in terms of behaviors to relate to and resolve situations with others in an effective way, depending on the context.
These skills are necessary in all situations of our life: the space in which we move, our families, friends and work, the neighborhood, long-distance relationships and any link with others.
Expressing what we feel, our desires, defending our rights, maintaining our attitude towards what happens around us, and our feelings and emotions, are part of that universe.
Antisocial people are often spoken of as a trait that distances them from the environment; what usually happens is that there are certain social skills that are more developed than others, and, except for psychological disorders, nothing will prevent them from being able to incorporate them to relate and interact in a better way if desired.
Types of social skills
They can be grouped into two large groups:
- Basic: Listen, be able to start a talk and end it, be able to ask questions, say thank you, introduce yourself to others, praise other people, show interest in others. Most of them have to do with our internal way of acting towards the environment, what we are calling “social” here.
- Complex: Empathy, emotional intelligence, assertiveness, active listening, knowing how to communicate feelings and emotions, the ability to detect a problem and outline possible solutions, negotiation, modulating emotional expression, the ability to apologize, recognize and defend one's own rights and those of others.
Some tips to develop your social skills
1. Learn to feel comfortable with people other than yourself.
2. Check the type of relationship you establish
3. Listen to your own emotions
4. Notice the position of your body.
5. Eliminate distractions.
The human tendency is to go back to the past to look for previous faults, or cognitive biases, which are the known routing of neurons in similar situations.
A key that will help you if you feel that there is any difficulty in better tuning in with people, is that you consciously remove distractions that hinder the bond. Things as simple as muting the phone,
"Be yourself, unless it's better than not," says Spanish psychologist and lecturer Alfonso Alcántara.
The important thing is to get a sense of how to interact with others, and improve our social skills as much as we want, in the process of being an improved version of you, if we choose.
